You were all right...unfortunately...

[ann25]

I know that the DB coach has given you some advice and you've done that and if you want to stick to that plan, i pray it works for you, but here's a slightly different perspective...

The sits leading up to this are far diff than yours, but:

I had an EA (online) that lasted about 3 months. My husband did the same as you and found the emails. We shared pictures and sexual fantasies. I told him i loved him (i didn't, but he made me feel good) anyways. My H found the emails, he confronted me immediately. He made me sit down with him in front of the computer and go through a ton of emails and pictures and stories. I have never felt so ashamed of myself. He also said this. "I love you and I want to stay married to you. You have 2 choices. You either stop talking to him here and now or it's over" I deleted the email account while he watched and the next morning I changed my cell phone number. I haven't spoken a work to him since. Quite honestly i don't miss the EA or OM. I only think about it when H asks about it. Did that fix everything, no, but now we can.

Only you know your W, but i would highly recommend telling her she needs to make a decision. You or him cause you will not stand for this. Even if it is only flirting and talking. you deserve to be treated better than that.

all my best... ann