Hugs. Big hugs. I totally understand. I mean, enough already, right? We've had ENOUGH. How much is a person supposed to take? I don't blame you. There used to be a time I'd rather have H home than anything else; now I feel like you...don't come around me in the state you're in. They bring us down. I think he is scared, and that is why he doesn't move out. And truthfully he really doesn't want to go, he just isn't proactive about getting help for himself.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.