My only advice is to protect yourself financially. It is hard, for it feels like the end of your marriage in some ways. But you must do it. My MLC W spent like crazy all summer, and I finally separated the finances in October. I avoided a financial disaster only because I refused to put up with her spending any longer. I have no inheritance coming; if you are on your own financially, youk must protect yourself. No shame in that. You cannot know what the future holds. My MLC W told me yesterday she wants a D. I'm fine with that, but if I had let the finances go on another six weeks I would be in much worse shape now. It was hard when I did it. Believe me, it was painful to walk into payroll and tell them to divert my paycheck. It was hard to walk into the bank and set up a new account. But, I am SO glad I did. You cannot put your future in their hands. You must take care of yourself. Hard, but necessary. Take care.
