The only thing he told me is that I need to accept that my H's needs are different than mine. He said that H has agreed to meet my needs for intimacy and sex and I can't now start criticising his efforts.. such as coming back saying that it's not passionate enough, or I feel like he's going through the motions, etc. He said it's up to him to get it going and up to me to encourage the passion.
Here is the part I struggle with. How can you refrain from being critical when all you get is the going through the motion sex? Hell, that makes me feel less close, less loved, etc than not having intimacy at all. I tried scheduling and she told me essentially the same thing. She would be game but I could not complain that it wasn't "real" or passionate. We got through exactly one day and I could not keep my end of the bargain.
Gone the carvings and those who left their mark. Gone the kings and queens, now only the rats hold sway.
