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[MaxP]

Hey Trixi,

Sounds like things are really moving along (quite literally too). Your new place sounds great and will be somewhere you can really get stuck into. You have loads of friends and an excellent support work, which must feel really amazing and has to be a very positive comment on the kind of person you are and what people feel about you. It's a really hard thing to do, but you have all the foundations in place to make the transition.

I've just finished reading Rebulding, I found most of it to be good with some excellent chapters. I need to go back through it again to try to work at some kind of measured pace (I always read these cover to cover without doing most of the work!). My only gripe was with some of the analogies and terms used. The premise is excellent though.

My W also has the "nothing is forever" viewpoint which is something I can't understand, in truth it's one of the very few concerns that I had early on in our R. In my mind it's just another way of expressing commitmentphobia, a handy get out clause for those who like to think of themselves as liberal and free spirited - when it's convenient to do so. Of course those left behind often get labelled as having unrealistic expectations, almost of being inhibited and boring, rather than people who recognise that at times Rs require real effort to make them great. Out of interest is your H an only child?

With regard to the gift question, I don't really know. Something thoughtful but inexpensive perhaps. Something that he may need or reminds him of you.

All in all I hope you have a really great christmas, enjoy it for your sake and show him just what a good time you can have.

Take care,

Max