H said our M is "platonic"

[Dom R]

I cannot forgive. I clearly don't want to. I can't. It's been over 3 years and I am worse off in some ways than before. I've tried. I just can't.
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I still want sex though. That's the problem. Well, part of the problem, really I want a man who hasn't hurt me so much. It's as simple as that.

Seems like what you're saying then, is basically:

• You enjoyed having sex with OM 2 years ago. REALLY enjoyed it, as opposed to the sex you've had with your H.
• You enjoyed being in a "blank slate" relationship.
• You figure that finding a new sex/romance partner, is going to be more enjoyable and less work for you, than fixing up your existing relationship with your husband, and working to build a positive sex dynamic between you like Sheila did with her H.
• The feelings and wellbeing of your two children, are less important then item #3, above.

Does that about sum it up?


PS: if the pivotal issue for you, is really about,
"you need to 'forgive', to work on this, but 'cant'"... I hear there's a book called "forgiving the unforgivable", that might help you with that, if you chose.