Sorry it took me a few days to respond. Glad to see things are getting better. Hugs to you..
Funeral was on Saturday. Ugh..It was awful but we all made it through. Two years to the DAY we were there burying my mom's sister, then this past week her husband. My cousins were okay..It was the grandchildren crying that broke our hearts. So hard fo them..
New Guy went and took care of me, the driving, the kids. It was wonderful to have that support as I have never really had it. Kids were bickering on the way up and New Guy has the patience of a saint. Let me tell you..
Sunday I was the x-mas mad decorator. Did the outside of the house with roping and white lights on the picket fence. Same on the front porch. This year I bought twinkling snowflakes that hang from the rafters of the porch..so pretty.
I heard that XH is having his typical MLC Holiday Breakdown. I have ignored him since his little snit last weekend. He needs to cool down.
I did text him and email him AND had D call hin about her conference on Friday. He didn't go. Then I get a text from him last night..WTF?
It read: Report cards? Teacher conf. summary? Passport Application?
I guess I am only important for support checks. Okay..It took EVERYTHING I had not to respond but I didn't. I think the true reason for the text waas the last sentence.
First of all, he blew off the conference. Second of all, report cards..all he had to do was text the kids..we ALWAYS bring them to him..they had them for a week..that's it..so what? He never cared before..I would always ask him, "do you want to see their grades?" He is involved sometimes, others he is not..So, it was an oversight on my part. The kids faxed them to him last night. The last line..passport stuff. He wants me to fill all this stuff and go to a notary with all my free time. For a trip he hasn't planned yet..whatever..
Here we go again..
I know what prompted the text. He and the RAt got in a fight and she slung [censored] at him saying I said it. We spoke last week for a few minutes and I said to her that as long as he takes good care of the kids and gets his support payments in, that is all I want.So, I am sure it was misconstrued..I learned my lesson. Not to talk to her. But I didn't bash XH to her..I was just stating I want PEACE for the kids sake.
Oh well..
Good news!
My boss just emailed me to "discuss" my schedule at school for next semester..He says based on the reviews he wanted to very much accomodate my schedule. I was observed last week and kids had to fill out student observation forms..
I am hoping to get hired full-time..OMG! MY dream come true..To teach writing at a college level. I would have died and gone to heaven!! Woo Hoo!
So, I will let you all know how it goes..I am trying to meet with him today as my horoscope says its the best day in THIRTEEN YEARS financially..to sign governmental contracts, etc!!
SO FUNNY!
Have to run..house looks like xmas boxes threw up..
Hugs and many congratulations on the career front. You have done so well.
Oh the pity party of the support checks: I get that about my youngest - 'all he wants from me is money' It isn't true, but frankly he hasn't given my youngest anymore than that for the last two years.
It isn't that kids just want money, but if that is all that is on offer, then they will take that as a proxy for what they really want. Which is love and a real father who stays with his family and his wife through thick and thin. Not just there for the good times.
Now, actually it is the most TREMENDOUS compliment, in that stupid woman's way. The Best PIC she can up with is her with her partner's wife's child. For heaven's sake - The irony of it.
I agree..it should be against the law to put a pic of a child on the internet other than your own.
I am a bit calmer, now, thanks.
Just when I thought she was starting to get it..stupid me.
I swear, I have ALWAYS felt she wanted to be me..And putting my child online to sell herself, so to speak, sick.
Her whole profile is sick..
I emailed XH and told him if she doesn't get son's pic off I am getting legal involvement.
This sh** never ends. She has been a thorn in my side for three years. She is the BIGGEST loser. XH knows it. But she works for him. I wonder what XH's new girl thinks of this. It's the cycle all over again except the Rat and XH arenn't married.
The poor girl Xh is now dating has NO IDEA what she is getting in to.
MTN, I'm sorry this happened. It's just another saga in what is the disgusting life of your H and the Rat.
What do you want? What can you really do? You want your sons pic out of it, right? Not thinking that telling your H is going help - given past experiences.
What can you do legally? Find out. Just do it.
This is what I think. I feel that you are constantly pulled into this awful, extra-trashy version of your XH's life newly, post divorce. I know you're trying to get your kids out of this, and get yourself away from this back to normal life.
To that end, my thoughts are to figure out what exactly involves YOU...stick to that, and disentangle yourself in a way that is normal, legal and swift.
I can almost predict what response you will get from XH. He will ignore it, or thrash you, or Rat. He's insane. This whole thing is insane. And, you get sucked back into it. When has going to him for anything helped. Never.
Just go through the legal route directly. Why warn him? Just do it. For that, the credit blooper, stripping in front of your kids, everything. By going to him, or trying to speak rationally with the Rat, has gotten you nowhere. It hasn't worked for 3 years, and it won't now.
And, stick to what concerns you and getting yourself away from this trashy drama. Just the picture. Why bother knowing if Rat has a profile, how much she has lied, about XH's new girl, what she is getting into, and the general drama between them all. It only hurts you and your kids....over and over again.
And, stick to what concerns you and getting yourself away from this trashy drama. Just the picture. Why bother knowing if Rat has a profile, how much she has lied, about XH's new girl, what she is getting into, and the general drama between them all. It only hurts you and your kids....over and over again.
Oh I agree.
Mamma, focus on all your the great things you do have in your life.
Not the rat, ick.
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