I think if IC were unhappy... or if IC wanted to try something different... he'd tell you. I know you want to please him... that is so cool. But know that is also VERY OK to please yourself... explore... try things... and if you don't want to at this point in your life... do your best.
Good advice, Corri. As a HDW, I'll take it one further. You can't feel desire "for" somebody else's benefit. You can only do it for yourself. The more self-validating and selfish you can be during sex the more desire you will feel. The hottest incidence of sex I had this year occurred when things cycled up from me bucking NG out of my way and saying "I wanna touch myself." like a bratty toddler grabbing for a cookie. Just go a little crazy and don't give a f*ck when you are f*cking and your desire will fill the space you create when you throw out all anxiety, self-consciousness or desire to please. Seize the moment.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
