H said our M is "platonic"

[SouthernGirl]

I totally get everything you're saying LFL but this

I mean if he had told me last night that he was thinking of being with other people instead of vice versa, I would have been devastated. I wouldn't forgive him. But he does. He still wants us to go to counseling and work this out.
I just dunno...

is simply a guy thing. "Thinking" isn't unforgivable to the guy because the "line" is the actual act. What you "think" doesn't mean much to most guys. To a girl, "thinking" means they're already emotionally over the line and that's worse.