Refresh my memory regarding the circumstances of his moving out. Didn't he rent an apartment without telling you and then just up and move? What did he give as a reason (if any)? Was there some event that triggered his departure?
Yes, he rented an apartment without telling me and I only realized this after seeing the large withdrawal on our bank statement. I confronted him about what that was and it all came out then. Who knows how he was ever going to tell me on his own? Never got the chance. But he already had the key and off he went that night. The reasoning is much more complicated. He says he just fell into a depression and running was the only solution he could see in his fogged mind. That whole thing hurts more than out entire SSM issues. He changed as a man in my eyes that day and may be the crux of the problems now.
