IC,

That idea has merit. I'll have to think it over.

Dom,

I wish erections were the issue. It is the man they are or aren't attached to that is the problem. He has had some mild
issues but does not seem to suffer from primary erectile dysfunction & could always get it up and keep it up when it came to making the babies that he had wanted for so long EVEN when he was tired, stressed or not that into it. I have never demanded a certain type of sex - that would be him. None or woman on top or a nice bj - thats it.

RJ,

Vacation was a bust. It was because the babies got so sick - upper respiratory, pink eye, ear infection. H indicated that he had been expecting to get lucky but then again I couldn't really tell because it isn't as if he was rubbing up on me in the kitchen or passing out lingering kisses along the way. He merely said something in response to someone's question like - Well, I'm ok with not having any more (kids) but not with not having ANY more.
The kids were up all night, in our bed etc...

I only have sanity and priority because there has been so much tragedy around me lately. This year I have had so many friends and work associates become critically ill, die etc... Two of them were in their late 30's, never married, no kids. They never had a chance for half the blessings that I have enjoyed. Who am I to b!tch?

I've always had a strange theory about the multiply married. By multiple I don't mean just twice. People who marry, divorce or lose their spouse and remarry are kinda the norm. People who marry three, four and more times fascinate me. First, I figure they must really have it going on that Mr/Mrs number four thinks that it will work out. Second, it is kinda unfair for one person to make their way through so many people (tying up the potential dating pool). Maybe the truth is that it isn't that I have such an even keel. Maybe I'm just afraid to be in the boat of getting married a third or fourth time if I were to dump H. I like to think I would just date and not get remarried but I am a monogamous girl. Sure, Mr. Big Guns was entertaining looking and we might have had a nice time together but if I can't demonstrate restraint to my children who can???

Karen