From my perspective, I agree with 3/4 of what you are trying to tell LFL here but I gotta say the way you are expressing yourself is not helpful IMO. Two things are true. Either LFL truly does respect and appreciate her H or she doesn't. Whether she is adequately expressing/communicating that respect/admiration/appreciation is another matter. If she simply "plays him bunny" without integrity you know she isn't going to get "real" desire or anything in return.
The other point that I would make is that, I'm sure that we would both agree that intimacy requires the ability to accept that others won't always behave in a manner that we respect/admire/appreciate. True for the boys and the girls. However, we should ask that our partners are at least self-aware enough to acknowledge when they are behaving in a manner that makes it difficult for us to respond appropriately. It is one thing for a man to signal "I'm not feeling very manly right now and you aren't helping.". It's another thing for a man to signal "I'm not willing to be the man."
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
