Firstly, I think you did really well there and responded clearly, calmly and validated what she was saying.
My first impression would be that your W is really stressed and feeling overwhelmed and out of options, as she says. She doesn't know what to do and fears that she has no easy way out of her current sitch. She's come to you for advice, perhaps because of the affect the choices will have on your daughter but also because she needs help and reassurance and knows that you can be there for her.
I guess one thing to know is whether her mood will stay constant, or fluctuate - she does seem pretty stressed during the IM coversation. I guess when people find themselves in a sitch where they feel helpless they start to reassess and doubt their choices, but this can be reactionary.
I don't know your sitch and am not great at this but I hope that helps. As ever, keep calm, supportive, validate and take things slowly.
Max
Me 36 W 37 Bomb (Easter 07) Sep (WAW July 07) "It's over" (end Oct 07) T10.5 years, M2 (before bomb)
