Pregnant and abandoned #3

[Startingover2]

I agree with NikB's post. We all sway back and forth with what should be and how it should be until we get to what is. I do it daily.

I was just on the phone venting to a gf about my sich. I was telling her I get the "how are you doing?" texts every day and now they are getting annoying because nothing is changing...you know what she told me? THIS IS ALL THAT H IS CAPEABLE OF. NOTHING MORE. ACCEPT IT FOR WHAT IT IS AND HEAL YOURSELF. She said that my sitting here waiting for him to change is like waiting for hell to freeze over. I have to make the changes. Figure out how we are going to coparent this baby. Nothing more.

Blindsided.....now is the time to start putting your ducks in a row regarding this baby. How you will live financially, emotionally, daycare, etc. Assume that H is not coming back and go accordingly. I am now 6 1/2 months and things are getting harder to do physically. Start preparing now as if he won't be there. It does help with your mind. My daughter and I put the entire nursery together without H's help. What a great feeling!

You can do this.