Originally Posted By: karen1
Sometimes I am sad. Sometimes resigned. My H will say that he misses sex (if I bring it up) then do nothing about it. I have directly asked him if he is angry with me, sorry he married me, if he finds me unattractive ......he denies all of it. Dom has pointed out to me that I don't have unalienable right to H's desire. That's easy I don't have it at all.


*cough*.. someone mention my name? ;\)

I think that statement/sentiment should never go mentioned without its counterpart.

I dont believe that anyone has an "unalienable right" to their spouses's desire, as you put it.
However, I DO believe, that you have an unalienable right to their sexual attention.

You dont have a right to tell your spouse, "Find me attractive, dammit!" But you have every right to say, "I'm horney, show me you love me!", and expect him to show you ! \:D [and no, I dont think that "laying there" is showing you]

(Also, it's only fair, if "show me you love me", isnt defined as "get an erection on demand". that isnt exactly fair. unless maybe you get discounts and prescriptions on demand ;\) )


Last edited by Dom R; 12/13/07 06:27 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle