I read the first page of posts on your sitch, but won't be able to get to the rest until late this afternoon. I just wanted to let you know that I got this and will be getting back to you. In the meantime, remember that while P&DB did a lot of "be the person your spouse will want to be with" db'ing, she was also perfectly willing to take a hard line when she needed to. That should be your model. If the Infidelity board is anything like it used to be, you'll get lots of good db'ing advice there. This forum (SSM) will probably be better at supplying advice on standing up for yourself and leading her. Also, tell P&DB to send me a short email about this from her perspective. Just a summary (otherwise she'll never finish and I'll never get it ).
Hang tight. There are no guarantees in life but you're doing what needs to be done.
SSM,
P&DB is a db'ing friend of mine. Mcol is a member of her extended family. I'd really appreciate anyone who would read over his sitch and do your best to channel NOP. Thanks.
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