All I needed her to do was plant the seed of doubt.
Huh? Doubt about what? I don't follow this.
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The dozen exclamation marks signify the 12 months that have gone by since the last time she gave me a kiss goodbye.
I guess the crumbs she scattered in front of you did their magic.
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I have seen many clues that she feels bad inside about this.
That she feels bad about the EA, or bad about getting caught? Or bad about having to scatter some crumbs to pacify you into not bugging her about it?
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Let me give you a little background on my wife so more of this might make sense. I'd like to hear what everyone thinks.
First, I don't think you really want to hear what everyone thinks, because it hurts to hear most of this. Second, your description of your wife's history reminds me of the time I was describing MY wife's history of parental abandonment, etc., to a friend. When I was done, the friend said, "her father blah blah blah. Her mother, blah blah blah. Abandonment blah blah f#%king blah. Everyone has issues. We're adults now. Get over it." Your wife has to be close to 50 now. If she truly doesn't have a "clear identity" of herself by now, and is still dealing with issues from her adolescence, then she hasn't tried very hard. It does not excuse her actions with your best friend.
Cheaters lie. Liars cheat. You can either face up to the facts or continue deluding yourself that a "little kiss goodbye" after 12 months is a sign that a change for the better is just around the corner. Geeze, all you had to do to earn that kiss was uncover a clandestine affair between your W and your best friend. What are you going to have to do to earn some real affection?
