He filed...

[Heartbroken]

Just thinking of you - I hope you are taking care of you!!!

(((((LO))))))

HB

[lovelyolive]

I'm trying HB.. I am trying. In them meantime, H is still all over the place with what he says and still some of what he does. So, I've been questioning him as to why he keeps saying little hopeful things on one hand and divorcing me on the other. His only reply is "I don't know". AAAARRRGGGGGHHH!!!!!!!!

[ourcrisis]

He is so in the fog you may as well just ignore him. I am sure if you skip three days or three weeks and talk to him again he will be the same, saying completely two contracdictory things.

I couldn't sleep and was flipping through Divorce Remedy again. Brought back some useful tips.

Take care of yourself and let it go for a while. Your H can brew in his own misery for now.

HUGS

[lovelyolive]

I'm sure you're right oc. At this point, I think he just wants his pain to end so he'll do whatever he thinks will make it go away. My IC thinks that is why he flip-flops so much - to relieve his guilt in both directions.

In the meantime, I've been in quite a bit of contact with my attorney. She's great and fair but I just hate this!! It's been less than a week since he told me and it's scary how bad the rollercoaster ride has gotten. I got off the Affair Diet a while back but now I'm onto the Divorce Diet! I just feel sick all the time...

[SueS]

I got off the Affair Diet a while back but now I'm onto the Divorce Diet! I just feel sick all the time...

LO-

I follow your sitch all the time. I'm sorry you're going through this. I'm still on the Affair diet. It's put me down from a 14 at the beginning of the summer to between an 10-8 now. Sick

You're in my thoughts.

SueS

[lovelyolive]

Thanks Sue.. I feel like crap. Exactly like I felt well he droppped the A bomb. Why couldn't he have waited until after the holidays at least??

[Yoyowife]

That would have been the kind unselfish thing to do, but they have tunnel vision apparently. They can only see one solution and they want it to happen quickly.

Wish I could give you a big hug!

[lovelyolive]

I wish you could, too. I need one

I was just thinking back to the week he filed and he was out pretty late one night after we had a HUGE argument. I'm sure he and ow were talking and she told him he better "seek legal advice" before I did something crazy. You know how they fuel the fire...

[Yoyowife]

Oh yes, and of course they are always right. They are always believed over us. I remember I found out some info one time and I told my H about it and she turned it around and made me look like the bad guy. I just learned it was best to keep my mouth shut no matter what I knew.

[Yoyowife]

LO,
Are you on AD's? If not I think it might be a good time to get on them. I am on a very low dose. I know I could not have survived without them.