I wish i had the answer as to how they can just flip a switch and decide our whole lives for us. I don't hold the key to the lock into their minds.
Yes, you feel your h is falling right thru your fingers, yes it hurts, But your h is not thinking clearly right now. He is wearing blinders over his eyes, and his ears have fallen off, so he cannot see or hear you. No matter how much you try to show him, by crying or being sad, it really makes him feel worse and is pushing him away.
But, there is one thing you have that your h does not, all of us here, on top of family, and friends. I think you meantioned about a sister? I am an only child, I have no brothers or sisters, only my parents,who have been wonderful. Yes its tough for them also, they are losing a son, they don't understand. But my mom sent me a beautiful christmas card. I cried for about 20 minutes after i read it. There are people out there who do love you. And you have all of us here, who will walk with you thru this.
Believe in yourself. For a stronger you is soon to come
phbear
Last edited by phbear316; 12/13/0705:38 PM.
Me 42-Him 40 T20yrs Married 16yrs 2/06 H- "not sure if i want to be married anymore" 6/07 H-"I'm not happy" 9/07 Admits affair & OW 12/08 I moved out 12/09 still waiting for divorce