CVA - Have I Done Everything...No!

[Not Much Left]

Thanks Nomo, will do.
I have read 5LL and I think her LL are quality time and gifts. OK, so quality time, tough to do. Gifts, looks like I'm trying to buy her off and once she started buying everything she wanted anyway, that is where I really started struggling with her and thus our problems escalated. I had no way of showing her I loved her in her language cuz she would never aknowledge the effort, she would usually just return whatever I bought (even though I do have good taste!) and it would tick me off so....I find myself completely stumped on this right now.

One idea I came up w/ with Sunny, or maybe she did I dont know, was that I could get her something that would be relevent to her family when she goes to Dallas right after Xmas. A paid for dinner for all of them one night while she is there? I dont know, just an idea. Another complaint of course is that I dont care about her family, so, killing two birds with one stone?

The other night my oldest son was apparently saying mean things about his grandpa (papaw), that "all he likes to do is fish, that is all he wants him to do when he goes there, and he hates fishing" (which he doesnt, he was just in a mood apparently about going there without me). So I come out from taking a shower and BAM, W says "S10 is saying mean things blah blah blah" , I said, "why is he saying that?" , W. "where do you think he gets that from" as she looks at me???????? Well Efff, I compose myself and say "well, he does like to fish so that's not completley untrue and I never say anything bad about your dad fishing so...", She says, "well, he should be grateful for having a papaw at all let alone one that wants to do stuff with him". I agree with that and say I will go talk to him,which I do and everything is fine afterward. Proud of myself for remaining calm in this one as she was definitely attacking which is kinda new.

C