Picture IC & myself with one of those little red radio flyer wagons whereas the wagon represents sex. I'm sitting in front of the wagon and IC is pulling me along down the sidewalk..it's enjoyable, but IC's doing all the work. Now there are times (like last night) where we'll come to a large hill where IC will give the wagon handle to me for me to steer while he jumps in back of the wagon and enjoys the free-wheeling down the hill...but yet when we reach the bottom, I stay in the wagon and IC jumps out and starts pulling us up the next hill.

I like this analogy. Anything else it applies to besides sex, in your R?
I would say its pretty common. Seriously, why do any work when you can find someone to do it for you?
besides we like showing off how strong we are. \:\)
There was a time in my M when I decided to stop pulling the wagon. Sat right down at the top of the hill and said 'Im tired'.
Like Mojo said, she just wanted to find a boy to pull the wagon, she didnt really care who the boy was.

Now, in my mind, I liken it to riding a horse. We were out of water, so I thought I would give her a rest. All I did was succed in wearying myself so that when she smelled water and bolted, I was to weak/tired/slow to stop her.
Man the desert sucks without water.

In the desert,
You cant remember your name, for their aint no one for to give you name
fa la
laaaa
la la laa la
From now on, Im riding that mare untill she drops. At least Ill be that much closer to the water, and fresh to boot.

I'm just afraid (because it's happened before) that IC will grow tired of this constant pulling and eventually drop the handle and go off and play cowboys and indians

at least when he is playing cowboys and indians, he is getting some feedback. More then likely if you keep cheering him on, he will keep pulling. Unfortunately if he breaks a leg, the odds say some OM will come along and offer to pull your wagon. Once his leg mends he can go find some other girl to pull in her wagon again.

Men are so willing to work hard in silence, it takes suprisingly few words of encouragament, and displays of apprecation, to release their inner well spring of determination and git r done. Some sickos even manage to carry on with broken legs. ;\)

Me. I say forgit the little girls in wagons. Little girls are for little boys.
go lasso a mare and train it. ride that filly till she drops. You may just be close enough to water, because you reserved your well being, to come back and revive her. If not, you will be sad, but the horse wont be mad at you. Shell understand. Its her job.
Heck even if she is mad, shell be too tired to buck much once you get her up and climb back on. and a little bucking every now and then is good for both of you.