This is good. Continue to be careful, and keep a "safe" distance.
I am laughing out loud at what I just typed.... The absurdity of me posting this like I'm some kind of experienced expert. OK, OK, let me state that, although I have no experience, if I were you I would continue to tread cautiously. Friendly but not caring....
For the record, my wife is an ice princess. She hates talking to me....
For the record, my wife is an ice princess. She hates talking to me....
Then maybe we could get the Ice Princess and the Ice Prince together. My H appears to absolutely hate talking to me at times too. On his time, it's okay, but when I start a convo....it's like it's a drill going into the side of his head. At least that's the expression he has on his face!!
I'm sorry Mark. This just sucks!
SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
Mark... you are absolutely right.. safe distance is the key.
I also can relate to the expert comment. I feel guilty at times when folks ask for my advice when I look at my sitch and think "You want advice from me?"
I'm considering petitioning the AMA to give all those on here an Honorary Psychology degree. Not only have we gained a greater introspective, we've had to learn sooo much about others and their behaviors. It's almost masochistic!!
I appreciate any and all comments.. sometimes it just feels good to be validated!!
SueS --- Boogity Boogity Boo--- strength is now yours!! Thank you for the kind words!!
I will say that's one of the oddities of my sitch. W has always maintained that she wants to be friends.. best friends at that. I think it's her little way of saying "I want to start all over with you"
JAR, We all seem to know what we "should" be doing, but you are one of the few who has happened to actually do them! I'm impressed! Send some of your strength and mojo my way too! You're a great role model in so many ways!
Hugs
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Jar, those posts make me happy. You are doing well. And you are in the best stage of detachment, where you really are at peace and care less.
PS: Mark, I laughed at your comment. SO hard. I run around this place handing out advice thinking "I wonder if they pop back on my thread and think 'WTH?'" lol
OK.. so... interesting evening. I was to pick up D5 from kindergarten and take her to W's to watch the D's while she took her final. She would come home and we would pick our pictures from the recent picture taking at school and potentially talk. I was excited.
Get to W's and she's a little off.. I can tell something was bothering her. Before she left for school, she said "I need to ask you something.." Now.. stick with me, cause it's a little hard to follow... Evidently OM's EX W's new man told my W that I picked the girls up from school one day with another woman!!
WTF?? Not sure if it was an honest mistake, or if they are trying to stir up crap or what. I looked her dead in the eye and said "not true".. I didn't expand other than to say I thought it was funny that he would say something like that. I can picture W now running around asking everyone "Did you see Jarhead pick up the D's with another woman.. Did you see Jarhead pick up the D's with another woman?" Funny.
So.. W went to school to take her final. She was worried, but I told her I had faith in her and knew she would do well. Just being nice.
Observations while watching D's: 1. Picture of me and W while she was pregnant in Aruba is now gone. 2. Calendar (right by trash) states that OM's Xmas party is Saturday. 3. Calendar also has the 28th (our anniversary) all scribled out. It stated (W and Jarhead.. 6 year anniversary) 4. Little TMI, but she had a pile of clean laundry in the living room.. noticed some new undies and a pair I had gotten her that she NEVER wore for me.
Whatever.. life is good anyway!!
Get a text from W... MIL just told her she sold her mare. What a peach MIL is. W is taking a final she's worried about flunking and she couldn't wait to tell her tomorrow?
I texted "I'm sorry to hear that".. I also texted the peach message to W. She agreed.
W got home.. night was already ruined, so I offered her a hug. She took it and cried while I hugged her.
We sat on the couch.. I complimented her hair and her arms (she's been working out). At one point she actually laid her head in my lap.. I rubbed her head for the duration.. nearly 3 minutes before she got up and said "Sorry"
We got down to the pictures. I love the woman, but her math is just wrong. We argued (her meanly) about who should pay what. We apologized to each other. (very nice it was both ways)
Then we ran over some finance issues that have been coming up. I told her I was taking care of some things that would help me in the long run. She said "That would help us too".. meaning her and I. It was a nice sentiment.
She wanted to take a bath.. as I was leaving, OM called. I waved bye.
She texted me a moment later.. "Sorry about 2night"
I replied "Me too... I understand though"
There were other little things, but the night was good.. as much as it could've been.
She did say "Sorry this wasn't as much fun as we had hoped.. maybe we can try it again some other night"
I think things are coming around a little.. I'm still playing it cool and acting "as if" mostly because I'm sure the little alien will show up again.. also because I'm good. I'm looking down the road. It'd be nice if she was with me, but doesn't HAVE to be that way.
