The aunt called me tonight and said she also talked with the W tonight and said the W told her the OM has offered to pay her 1200 a month to do PR work for him,
Good, she should get a job and start to do something. For what its worth, PR work isn't as easy as she may think, and he isn't going to keep paying if she can't do the job. From my perspective this just puts another angle into the relationship that could destroy it.
Originally Posted By: dh4320
after i digested this it came to 2 things, one she knows the aunt talks to me and she told her this to get back to me, or the OM has told her this to get the 5K out of me.
She may or may not have said this to Aunt to get it back to you. Who really cares. If I were in her shoes I would want to seem totally destitute to get more out of you, then say I have a source of income. But your not really sure why she told her this, so don't overthink it.
Originally Posted By: dh4320
I am soooo confused the W still tries to get under my skin with all this so i will not be giving the W this money tomorrow and i will stick to my guns and tell her to show me proof of where this money is goning,
How much is she asking for? and for what purpose? I'm sorry but shy of 20 to 100 here or there and paid directly to the merchant, I wouldn't be giving her crap. Let guitar boy pay her way now. See if you financially support her, then her R with OM is never strained because it stays in fantasy land. If she has to start to rely on him, and he suddenly realizes he didn't get a girlfriend but a W with kids, the R will have problems.
Originally Posted By: dh4320
well in our state the max child support she could get is 1800 a month you put her 1200 a month from OM and the child support together and it equals 3K just a thought but i think she is planning this to get the kids and the child support
Don't you already have temporary sole custody? That isn't easy to get in any state. Almost always there is joint custody unless 1) you don't want any custody or 2) she can show that what is best for the kids is to not be with you. Your not going to lose them, you may have joint custody though. Most states the child support is fixed based on a calculator, based on a ratio of how much dad and mom make, how many days with each parent, etc. Ask your lawyer, but the child support will be what it is.
