not a peep

[NikB]

But it hurts so much. And I miss him so much. But how can I be "mad" at someone just because they don't love me like a spouse should?

It breaks my heart and makes me feel a bit like a "loser", that somehow I am not good enough to love as more than a best friend. I feel flawed and rejected. I just wish I could be mad about it.

Reminding me of myself once again... I can sure relate to all this.

I feel awful for the people in the really volatile, angry, ugly situations - I sure don't want to trade places! But in some ways I think that does make it easier to let the other person go. It's harder when you see that they are a good person, you know (deep down) that you are and you feel you've done everything you can - and yet STILL your M is not working.

Dom, good points about the healthy attitude/path and on sometimes using that as an excuse / self-justification too. It's tempting when you just get sooo darn worn out. I've had that happen to me and it's always good to step back and look objectively (as much as possible) first.

Trixi - how are you doing??