Don't respond, don't respond, don't respond. I haven't received any texts since this morning. The last thing he said was "I'll call you tonight". It's tonight? No call. Typical
M 5yrs 1st baby-girl born 6/18/08 Bomb: 10/13/07 OW - I was 6wks Prego H Moved in w/OW: 11/2/07 D Final 07/10 OW had his baby 3/17/09-so her Me, now - happier than I ever was with him
I didn't respond to that text, but I did send him one late in the evening. I needed to know where he put the extra paint for the baby's room. I need to do some touchups. He told me where it was and offered to do it unless I already had someone to do it....not sure if that was a dig. I said I will.
I must have been feeling bad last night. My kids were watching the baby move and I got sorta sad that he wasn't there to see all of this stuff. Just then he sent a text... Him: 'tell baby her daddy loves her and you two sleep good.' Me: I will. She is moving all over the place and you could totally see it. (yes, maybe I rubbed it in on purpose) Him: That's awesome. Maybe I can see that sometime. Me: You shouldn't be missing all of this stuff. Makes me very sad. Him: Me too. Good night.
I know I shouldn't have gotten into dialogue, but I weakened. His last text seemed like he was pretty pissed. I thought about it. I bet he believes that I am keeping his child from him, but not for the reasons I really am. Not because of his actions or lack of actions or his drinking. I think he believes I am doing it just to piss him off.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
[/quote]I think he believes I am doing it just to piss him off.[quote]
And that is what he'll have to deal with as it's about him not you.
You didn't say anything that sounded pursuing it was a factthat was stated and you are allowed to say you are sad. You arealso allowed to feel that way.You are right he shouldn't be missing it but, it's not because of you it is because of him.
Try to have a good afternoon.
((((((so2))))))
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
Got hit with a 2x4 just now. I have no idea how outdated or old the info is but I am sure its accurate.
A gf just called that was just talking with OW's friend. I guess this friend was saying what a help my H has been to OW with her dad being so sick and all. So my friend was saying that they are STILL talking and nothing has changed.
Now, this news is nothing new. I knew they were talking before, so what makes me think they aren't now? It still hurts to hear it though. How my H is so wonderful to be there for OW in her time of need but sends me, the mother of his child, friendly text messages.
Just another reminder of who he is.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
I blew him off!! After I did my post above, he sent a "how are you doing?" text. I didn't respond. Then "is there a reason why you are not answering me?" then "I am getting pissed off. I want to know if you are getting my texts."
I waited awhile and sent "Yes, I have. Been very busy today." I hope that showed some GAL at least to him.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Those bricks of confirmation seem to hit at just the right times.
Last nights texts:
Him: Have a good night. Miss you all. Me: We miss you too. Him: Do you think that sometime I can come by and visit? **Before I could respond, this came** Him: Do you think you could bring me a beer right now? I am out. Me: No I can't. Sorry. Him: Ok, have a good night.
OMG. I am 6 1/2 months pregnant, told him his drinking is part of the reason I don't want him here and he asks for a beer! Although a few months ago, I would have done it so maybe he is testing the waters to see how serious I am.
Nothing changes.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Hes getting angry with me. I can tell, even if its over a text message.
He sent a text earlier asking where a particular store was where he could get my girls something for xmas. I told him. He then said that he would try and get his gifts wrapped tonight and bring them by. I didn't respond.
About an hour later he sent on asking if there was a reason I don't return his texts. I was actually in the middle of a conversation with a gf and when she left I said I was busy talking to someone.
Then he got mad and sent:"I will just give the gifts to D18 (my daughter). I don't have the energy for these games.
Hes getting frustrated. The part that is so hard, is I wonder if he is putting it together....OW and drinking = distance and darkness from me.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
