Believe me - it confuses the h@ll out of me. Sometimes it p!sses me off. Sometimes I am sad. Sometimes resigned. My H will say that he misses sex (if I bring it up) then do nothing about it. I have directly asked him if he is angry with me, sorry he married me, jif he finds me unattractive ......he denies all of it. Dom has pointed out to me that I don't have unalienable right to H's desire. That's easy I don't have it at all.
I think I am ok then yesterday I am in Starbucks and this 30 year old, buff gym rat kid strikes up a convo, compliments me and I recognize that I he would probably take me to bed if I worked it. D@mn it.