Actually, this thread gave me an idea, since I was thinking no gift.
I will buy something and put it in the closet. If he gives me a gift (I doubt he will, since he couldn't even get me a mother's day CARD and last year before we were even S he was very begrudging with the cheapo little girl earrings he gave me), I will have something for him.
Otherwise, it can stay in the closet and I will return it and spend the money on myself!!
So, something token. If I am feeling friendly enough I might even give him something regardless of whether he gives me anything. I just would rather not do anything that makes me feel resentful in any way.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
I thought about doing that, too. That's a good idea. Now, what to get the moron, er H.
Me 41 H 47 D9 S3 M 16 yrs WAH Sep 07 PA Aug 07 12/07 Admitted A 1/08 C 1/15 H needs me 5/7/08 came home 7/08 We moved to MD 10/08 M bad again 11/24/08 fled to GA(OW),filed D 12/8/08 Back in MD 12/23/08 I countered 12/29/08 path back?
My sitch is similar to those above in a lot of ways. WAW maybe MLC, very much does not want to try, etc...
Anyhow, I took our 5D shopping for wife. I thought it was the right thing to do. Need to remember it is not from you it is from the children to their other parent. Ended up spending around $30. Simple stuff, earrings(5D picked out, I don't care for them), lotion, nail polish, silly stuff...If you are doing this for your kids sake then you have your mind in the right place. I do not expect anything from my wife. I had planned to put something special in closet for her, just in case. But, I'd probably be wasting money. So, I am going to get a picture with 5D and Santa framed and label it from Jesus to give to wife.
My H will not be getting anything from me. The kids will buy him something from their allowance money.
I feel my H would take it as pursuing, so I don't.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Good question. I already bought something for my W. It is a digital picture frame which goes well with the digital camera I got for her last year. She enjoys taking pictures all the time and has actually framed some of them so I think it is a nice gift that is not intimate.
Personally, it doesn't matter if she gets anything for me. Ever since I could earn money, I found that I enjoy giving gifts more than I receive. I am not saying I don't like to receive because I do but that is not my motivation.
I can recommend getting a gift for your H as if he was simply a friend. A friend gift is usually very casual and should not be perceived as pursuing.
Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God
Ny son giving H a gift token for the computer game shop. They will more than likely choose the game together and enjoy playing it together. Everyone happy.
Oh, I am also gonna put a nice school photo in a frame for him.
I dunno, persuing or not I feel it is important to give a gift. H does a lot for son.Son would feel bad turning up at his dads home on Christmas afternoon with no gift. Christmas is about giving not recieving. I sincerely hope that H does not buy me a gift.
Hell, I even give the milkman a gift .....
Nutty Chick.
Be The Greener Grass.
Me 40 H 42 Son 11 Married 15 years. Left May 2006 after gambling spree I had EA August 2006 OW Aug 07 after another gambling spree (she will make me happy - stop me gambling!) I filed for divorce 9th April 2008.
Ny son giving H a gift token for the computer game shop. They will more than likely choose the game together and enjoy playing it together. Everyone happy.
Oh, I am also gonna put a nice school photo in a frame for him.
I dunno, persuing or not I feel it is important to give a gift. H does a lot for son.Son would feel bad turning up at his dads home on Christmas afternoon with no gift. Christmas is about giving not recieving. I sincerely hope that H does not buy me a gift.
Hell, I even give the milkman a gift .....
Nutty Chick.
Be The Greener Grass.
Me 40 H 42 Son 11 Married 15 years. Left May 2006 after gambling spree I had EA August 2006 OW Aug 07 after another gambling spree (she will make me happy - stop me gambling!) I filed for divorce 9th April 2008.
Me 41 H 47 D9 S3 M 16 yrs WAH Sep 07 PA Aug 07 12/07 Admitted A 1/08 C 1/15 H needs me 5/7/08 came home 7/08 We moved to MD 10/08 M bad again 11/24/08 fled to GA(OW),filed D 12/8/08 Back in MD 12/23/08 I countered 12/29/08 path back?
