It doesn't seem to matter to me how enjoyable the ride is...I'm willing to participate, and enjoy but I'm content to also just sit there, alone, in a motionless wagon...waiting and hoping - that scares me!
You both have enough heart, soul, willingness, commitment and ingenuity to make it work, so don't worry. I can relate to you, Miss IC, because too much sexual crowding and you're LD and too little sexual interplay and you're LD too ( like I say, you are lD enough that a good book looks good)...it's the Goldilocks syndrome of sexuality, and it makes it hard on the guys! But, it can lead to some really fun discussions, and some really great interactions, like the one you just had! I know with my mechanically minded H, what's really gotten through to him is helping him see that I have a sensitive "starter" button, but once I get going, well, let's say the fuzzy robe comes off and I am ready to go. We have learned to make jokes about all this... he personalizes less, I feel less pressure, there's less rejection all around, etc. And you know, there are days where I am just not in the mood, and that's okay too, but I keep a 2 day rule, so that feelings don't get too hurt.
Anyway, I think you are just great, you are still my hero, Miss IC.
