You were all right...unfortunately...

[bombardier50]

All, here's a little update.

Actually...a big update.

I talked to my DB coach yesterday and we came up with a way to confront my wife about the emotional affair without being confrontational. It was my coach's opinion, and I think she was right on, that if we confronted the offenders directly, we risked deepening the affair.

So.....last night, I asked a few little questions...
Me: "Do you ever wish we had as good a relationship as you do with him?"
Her: "What are you saying?"
Me: I repeat the question.

If any of you saw a bright flash on the east coast last night, that was my wife self-combusting. I got a string of statements like "We're just friends" and "You have some insecurities", etc., etc. Which of course, tells me that I hit the hot button with sledgehammer.

After the smoke cleared, I asked the next question:
"How do you think his wife feels about your long and frequent conversations with him?"

Long pause.

Her: "Well, maybe I'll have to call her tomorrow and find out how she feels..."

Bingo.

This morning, she came downstairs and gave me a little kiss goodbye before I went to work.

(!!!!!!!!!!!!)

Then she said she didn't sleep very well last night.

So the roller coaster ride really begins now, methinks. Please talk to me you guys...I think I'm going to need some help getting through the forest here...