BrokenMarriage07, I agree with you, I know how it feels, to be the "bad guy" but I know that I am not! When you have done everything you can to save your M, and it doesn't work out, sometimes the only thing you can do is save yourself, and your kids.
NoDirection, I feel for you, man. I know that separation from my children is the worst of all of this. I think you are right to strike, now, but I think you should go one, further, make sure that you have full custody of your son, make sure that you, no longer allow her to take him out with her. You hear all the time about parents getting D'ed, who kidnap their own kids, and in the state of mind your W is in, anything is possible. If you are that worried about it, do something about it, to make sure it doesn't happen. Man, just put your foot, down. You are still his father, and no matter what happens you always will be. You are in my prayers, bro, take care.