"It is important that you stop believing that your happiness is dependent on the love and acceptance of your wife. It is not."
Max...
Ohio Mark is on point here brother. One of the hardest things I have had to do is figure out what next when it involves my life with/without my W. I heavily relied on her when it came to our kids and now I cannot do that, I have to pull up my pants and get busy figuring this sh** out. Father time is the enemy right now because we all want to work this out now or reset the clock to before the bomb and try to divert the disaster. However, time and distance is what will ultimately restore our sanity.
We are here for you brother and know that we are all going through it or have come out of it and are willing to help others in a like minded predicament.
mcol Me: 34 Deployed W:32 (EA started Oct 07) S:8 D:3 S:18 mos ILYBNILWY-12/14/07 Request for backdated separation 12/14/07 Top areas to work: 1) Communication 2) Repairing me, focusing on me