WAW does not want to try

[I_Wanna_Make_It_Work]

I have nothing to add. Just let me recap the important point in the last couple posts.

1. You don't need her - you want her. Remember the theme in 5LL - Love is a choice. Love your W not because of what she does for you, but in spite of what she does to you.

2. The fact that her LL is quality time makes GAL even more important. Do your GAL activities and extend the invite for her to join you, occaissionally.

3. I still debate having the OM discussion with my W and caution you. Fact is I know why it happened. I know it happened. And I don't think I need to know every detail. The way I see it, when my W says she wants to return to the M, she's given me the greatest compliment there is. Which is that she walked on the other side of the fence - and though the grass looks greener - she still came back.

4. Keep in mind GAL doesn't need to be places to go. These are not my ideas of fun GAL activities - but still some may enjoy them. I'm trying to address your "small town" comment. Restore an old car. Volunteer at a youth group. Be a Big Brother/Big Sister. Umpire Little League games. Stamp or Coin collecting. Take piano lessons. Ring the bell for the Salvation Army. Join the volunteer ambulance or fire department. Visit some historic sites.... dream a little waw-p. GAL is whatever you want to do. Visit a nursing home. Plant a garden. etc. It isn't necessarily a single activity or hobby - it's more of a lifestyle change.