TLC???

[JennyF]

I'm looking for some reassurance...although I doubt there is really any out there. I know that H is actively pursuing moving out of his Moms and in with OW. I received info today that the affair may have started 16 months ago as opposed 11 mths ago when H said. I guess this doesn't make much difference, but I thought it might just mean that Replay started sooner I thought. The stats on affairs usually ending within 6 months to 2 years...would this be from the time of the bomb or the time the R started??

The reassurance I am looking for is that this R is doomed!!
Friends have started to tell him that he has slow down and he's moving way to fast...even for his own good.

I still can not fathom that he is willing to give up the bond with two such young children all for her. Can she really be that great or is he this dilussional?? Sometimes it seems as though he is thinking quite clearly when he talks to others about his feelings and plans with her. But can he really see what he is giving up?

I read on another post that they often have to experience the losses weighed against what they're gaining (just her!) before they can begin to realize what they're doing. I know that he has to go down this road and living with her will most likely speed up the process of the R self destructing...but it is SO hard to swallow.

I'm sad for me right now, it hurts and the thought that I don't mean anything to him anymore kills me. But the kids...this is what is unexplainable. It's my poor D & S that I am aching for. One day they'll have to know that their Dad chose to walk out on them without even trying. How unfair.

OH MAN! I want reassurances that just aren't there. I have faith and believe so deeply that he will eventually reconsider...but this tunnel is getting longer!

Any insight from anyone who's been at the point where their WAS moved in with OP would be helpful.
Thanks.
J~