Pregnant and abandoned #3

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I seem to have a really hard time because I feel as though he chose her over us. I know that everyone says that it has nothing to do with her. But, if she weren't in the picture, I know he would be home and we could have fixed what was broken. I feel like I lost my chance at having the family I dreamed of. He didn't even give us a chance to have that.

I know this is proabably not something you want to be thinking right now and in no way am i saying you should be happy about this, but a different perspective...

1) if it weren't her, it very easily could have been someone else. I highly doubt that he was walking down the street minding his own business when this random woman of his dreams walked up and begged him to be with her.
2) He told you he had been unhappy for a while. He never told you, he just left you. I'm not sure what makes you think that had it not been for her, he would have told you and would have been willing to stay and work on it. Everything in his behavior says the opposite of that.
3)This time apart, will help you to both grow as people (you first, him eventually,hopefully). If you both grow individually and then do reconcile, your M can be that much stronger. when you've made it through something this difficult, it makes most other stuff seem pretty unimportant.

I know you want someone to blame. This all has to be someone's fault. Blame only makes you feel better for a second. It doesn't solve the problem or make anything any better. What's been done, is done. It can't be changed or corrected. there are no do overs. Starting here and now, you can choose how you want to live. Do you want to feel insignificant? NO!! Does he make you feel that way? YES! How will you react to that? Will you use that to detach and say I am worthy of true love - or - will you let it destroy you and give him that satisfaction?

Being a mother is one of the most important and rewarding things to be. There is nothing insignificant about being pregnant and being a mother. You are important and you have one of the most important jobs there are. You are molding another person. If not for you, then be strong for that baby living and growing inside you. YOU CAN DO IT!!!!