Jen - your situation sounds similar to mine, including your timeline. But IMP and Jack are right. No matter how similar, each situation is unique.
I will not be buying anything for my H from me. D11 and D13 want to give him gifts, got ideas from him and asked me to take them shopping. I did. D13 told me that H took them shopping for me. I can't, for a minute, think that he bought me something. He didn't for my birthday (but got gift cards from the girls).
So that is how I am handling it. But again - you really need to do what you feel is right.
