Taking it day by day...

[Hurtin4certain]

So I was thinking this morning... I remember a few months back my W was telling me about her new best girlfriend.

She told me that she was in a long distance relationship with some guy in California and that they were both going to move to Texas where they could be together.

All of my W's family lives in Texas... Im beginning to think that maybe she wasnt talking about her friend afterall. Perhaps she was actually talking about herself?

I have a feeling this might be the case... that she intends to sale her house and move to Texas with OM. Im a nervous wreck!

Also, I meet with the lawyer today. Im nervous about that as well because it could very well be the final nail in the coffin for me and W and it will likely throw her into the comforting arms of OM.

I get the feeling that she will be happy if I file, because then it was me that gave up on our family and not her.

Thoughts?

[Hurtin4certain]

So W called this morning... she was upset that D was going around telling everyone at school that she was leaving and going to live with her dad. My W thought I put her up to this.

I told her I would never promise my D something I couldnt guarantee. She then told me D was going to get in trouble for lying.

I told her that D lying was a syptom of all the pain she is in.

I told her that I was removing myself from the equation and that my only goal was making sure D is alright.

I told her we had different opionions on whats best for D. She then started to cry and then told me she had to go.

Ant thoughts?

[Hurtin4certain]

Anything?

[Hurtin4certain]

Nobody loves me anymore... :-(

[SueS]

Oh H4C-

We love ya! Maybe your W's crying is because she knows that your D's pain is being caused by what she's doing and feels bad. Maybe this will make her re-evaluate a few things and start to help D out a little? Just a thought.

I'm sure many more will jump on soon and give their thoughts.

SueS

[LL44]

I love ya!!!

First of all, don't forget to document the night of partying, geesh.

I think Sue is right. W might be in denial in front of you (can't show weakness), but she might be realizing what's up.

I am thinking of your D.

How was the attorney visit?

[Hurtin4certain]

The L seemed really tough.. little lady that doesnt take crap from anyone. She wants to see if we can get an emergency hearing to get D with me.

SHe is concerned with W's bipolar issues and that she is not on meds. She also said that sometimes when a bipolar person loses custody, they will disown the child and move away.

Scares the hell out me! My D would be devastated if her mom moved away and had nothing to do with her, I really wouldnt be too suprised if W did something like that. Her recent behaviour is indicative that she is capable of anything.

THe problem with the custody issue is that D has gone to school in W's town for the last 2 years, judges like routine. But W's recent behaviour isnt routine (so thats good for me).

This is some scarey stuff! Im waiting on some money to get here in about a week or so and then I will retain L and file.

Sad...