Before I start with my story I want to start with a question. Do you let WAW know that you are aware of her fling or whatever you want to call it. She is constantly getting text messages and calls from the OM and carrys on about how it is so and so from work or what have you. I don't snoop anymore, but have verified what is going on and she is talking with OM constantly. He lives far away, but has came out to see her a few times. Here is an example of one of the texts: I miss you baby more than you know and I can't wait to see you again. Makes me ill, but Im past all that now Im just pissed that she constantly lies about it. I just want to clamly tell her that I know and she can stop the lying just keep it away from me and the kids. Any suggestions on this would be appreciated I am thinking about saying something before she moves out this weekend.
I have posted a lot of threads and my story seems endless. Well I haven't posted for a while Im just kind of getting exausted with the whole thing and starting to accept things for what they are. I have not given up hope, but I am realistic that I may not get another chance with my W. Have no idea what my odds are the way she talks my chances are 0%, but I think 50-50 is more close. I am doing a lot better myself I am not as sad all the time like I use to be and do know that I will be ok. Here is a ReCap of my sitch:
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- December 2006 wants to separate and thinks she wants a divorce. We separate for 2 weeks I did pretty good with DB stuff. Her reasons for the separation were the normal stuff not in love with you anymore, we have grown apart, she felt unloved my me, etc.
- Jan 07 She wanted me to move back into the house and later admitted it was only because of our chidren.
- March 07 Had a real nice trip to Mexico we both had a great time and think were looking much better.
- May - July 07 I countinued to try DB stuff, but we got back into a rut and everything I tryed to avoid this failed. She got more and more distant and I got more and more pushy and angry. According to her she was expecting more grand gestures during this time to win her back. I did a lot during this time, but still missed the mark with her LL gifts. I was trying to spend time with her and other things that were not her LL.
August 07 - She went out one night very late talked about some guy she meet and I got very angry even though she said I had nothing to worry about. By the way I am not an overly jealous person, but the distance going out late all the time was starting to take its toll. She went back to telling me she wanted to separate and probally would want a D.
Today - W is moving into a townhouse this weekend. We are both getting along really good she wants to still be my best friend. She still says we are going to get a D, but has not done anything to move in that direction yet. I know she is having atleast an EA with OM which she denies. She still likes doing things with me we are going to dinner and a play next weekend. She also wants to go skiing with me next month.
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One more question for those on the separated board. We have been somewhat separated for the past 3 months, but she still calls me all the time and we see each other a lot. Some of this has to do with the fact that we have kids, but not all of it she will call just to talk to me. I want her to be able to miss me, but I don't want to be cold or mean about it. I have already starting trying to not anwswer my phone and she gets really mad I tell her if it is an emergency leave a message and I will call right back. She also still likes to do family things often how do I say no to this without looking like a jerk. She is having the best of both worlds and not having a chance to miss me. I know I need to do something about this, because if I don't find away to allow her to miss me she will probally never come back.
