Still hopeful for some pleasant surprises

[Trixi]

I have zero tolerance for that behavior, and zero tolerance for her if she continues any relationship with him. Zero. If she wants a romantic relationship with that guy, or even if she wants to keep him as a "friend", she can have it, but I won't stay in that marriage. I told her exactly that before walking out the doorafter she informed me that "he'll always be my friend."

I just don't understand why YOU walked out the door. OMG. Her OM left CHILDREN at home 25 miles away?? And she is choosing him over working on your marriage?! WHAT?
I think you might want to read Love Must be Tough by James Dobson.

(shaking head) I am just so shocked; and even more shocked that she is getting to stay in the house and spend your income while you spend savings.

I know you want to reconcile your marriage, I know you want have your family restored, I know you love her and believe in redemption and that people make mistakes. But don't REWARD bad behavior.

I guess you didn't really ask for any advice or opinion, but from my point of view, focus on yourself, protect you and your children and let your Wife suffer the consequences of HER choices. She can't give up this idiot as a friend in order to save her marriage?? what does that say about her priorities?
Gosh, I'm sorry for going off. I am just sooooo shocked that a parent would leave children at home alone at night to go and have an illicit affair. YUCK