I think the answer to being told you provoked them is to say well you could just tell me what's wrong instead of sighing about it. Uh oh, no I've btdt too, I just get "if I do that you just go into attack mode". Which if I think about it seriously just isn't true. Of course telling him it's not true is just a recipe for disaster.
I'd like to know what Karen means by exposed too. I'm guessing what she means is that the game-playing has been exposed. I just never understood about game-playing I just thought it was stuff you read about in books, never what real people did in real life. Huh talk about loss of innocence.
Anyway like I say, he's not eager to move out. So maybe that's just a red herring
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong