I just got caught up on your sich Jak. Why is it we take 2 steps forward and 1 step back? Keep me posted. I don't know if I can offer any wisdom, but you always have my support.
I have been so down again today. This is my life. This is the best its gonna get. Give up the fantasy that H and I will ever really work out. He is happy being this way and nothing or nobody will push him to be different! If he is hurting he sure doesn't act like it.
I was having some pregnancy issues again last night. I couldn't get ahold of anyone and it wasn't really an emergency, but I did feel super alone. I broke down and sent a text to H and told him what was happening. He said he would be home with his kids and to let him know.....He is supposed to be here damnit!
Just talked with my sister. I lover her dearly but she is one of the ones who cannot relate. She tells me to tell H to F off and let him know how much child support will be. He's not stepping up as a husband/father and its his loss. I completely agree, but its easier said than done when she can go home to her great husband and family and I am stuck alone. She gets irritated with me when I vent how much this hurts and to see him happily going on with his life and friends bugs me. Like its not supposed to bug me.
This has to end soon.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Some of my friends and family are starting to get irritated with me, as well. You can vent to me. I understand, we all do. Vent, vent away.
M 5yrs 1st baby-girl born 6/18/08 Bomb: 10/13/07 OW - I was 6wks Prego H Moved in w/OW: 11/2/07 D Final 07/10 OW had his baby 3/17/09-so her Me, now - happier than I ever was with him
I have a friend who I supported in 04/05 when she was going thru things with her H.(she was the one that left and had an A after she left). They are back together after a year but, now i could use a shoulder and she doesn't want to listen to busy so i don't even bother. Don't need one sided friendships.
PLEEEEASE try not to give into this crap of his. He'll keep doing it he is trying to reel you back in.
I'l be fine I just need to keep DBing. He'll come around. If not then i'll find a good life for me.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
Nothing new today. Got the friendly "how are you?" text yesterday. Nothing more. No saying he is going to change, no saying he wants to see me. I haven't seen him in over 2 weeks, haven't spoken to him on the phone about the same. All communication is done thru a text.
I don't look forward to the future and dealing with him with our daughter. I hate that he is such a weak, irresponsible man.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
I am right there with you. I got the "how are u feeling?" text today after 4 days of no contact at all. Not even a text. It's going on a week since I have seen him. I know thats not long. I am really sick of text messaging. It is for juveniles. I swear I feel like I'm in Junior High. Texting is their way of distancing themselves from us, you know. Hang in there.
M 5yrs 1st baby-girl born 6/18/08 Bomb: 10/13/07 OW - I was 6wks Prego H Moved in w/OW: 11/2/07 D Final 07/10 OW had his baby 3/17/09-so her Me, now - happier than I ever was with him
Starting, I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. I read your message you sent to Sues. I'm so sad that your H is running away from his responsibilites to his wife and unborn child. It's very hard to have any respect at all for a man like that.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Yoyo, thanks for the support. I find this board is my only true support these days. People that have been there and done that...
I hope I was coming across to Sue in a clear way. It was hard to put into words.
My H wants to be a father when he wants and only then. He isn't saying he doesn't want her, but really doesn't care to make a family life. He is now my exh. He bailed on our marriage and waffled back and forth until I got pregnant. Why am I so surprised that he is doing this now?
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Got my "how is everything going?" text. Not going to respond. Not going to respond. Not going to respond.........
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
