1.When he offered to come help shovel out, what you should do next time is just say thank you. He's offering to do something; let him do it; don't remind him about the bad roads, etc. Just be receptive.
2.He kept mentioning the dr. appt. because he wanted you to ask him about it. Then he offered up about the meds. He wants you to know he is taking them or plans to, because I believe this man really loves you very much and knows he is messed up.
3.I don't think he would say he was getting you something at the mall if he really wasn't. Do you even know for sure MOW is still around? It seems to me like he spends a lot of time making contact with you, and if MOW were still in the picture I would think she would be the focus of his time. That is not what it seems like though.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
