my hurt is flowing out of me in anger and producing negative results.
That's an evil trick and it works on so many of us. The time to discuss the pain, is when you are calm and at peace, and only if it's legitimate. If the pain is the result of her not allowing you to control her, manipulate her, etc. then you've got the problem. However, there is a time, place, and proper delivery to set your boundaries.
I highly recommend Retrouvaille. It's put on by the Catholic Church but it's open to anyone. It might help save your M, by helping YOU become a more understanding, more communicative, and more loving person. http://www.retrouvaille.org
God Bless,
COG
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