You pretty much described my H and me, same roles. My H has a hard time expressing what he feels/doesnt' like etc. And I always speak up and prob don't give him chance to talk because I think what I"m saying should be alright. I've asked my H to write down the things I do/say that make him feel i'm beign controlling (I'm trying my darnest to not be, but I prob still come off as controlling since I take care of everything inthe house, finances, kids, etc, so it's 2nd nature to me_)
My H also was shown that he needs to make a decision, and he didn't like being confronted that way. Maybe our Hs don't want to be wrong? perhaps the years of passive agressive and poor communication dont' give him the confidence to speak still?
Focus on communication skills without putting your H in the spotlight, since obviously that's not working and having adverse reactions (again, same happen with my H and I at C, C asked him point blank questions and my H would say nothing and ended up feeling attacked).
What makes your M life seem like a roomate sitch? what can be changed? do you guys go out regularly, just the two of you? does he know he's the most important person in your life?
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
