I'm not saying to suppress your feelings...I've been following you over in the other forum..as much as you want to think that it doesn't, it still bothers you about what your husband did. It still bothers me about what my ex-wife did to me what 8-9 f*cking years ago. Now is not the time!!! My advice is to down play this as much as you can. Blame your anger on something..other than him & the past..the boys gave you a hard time getting ready for school..the orange you just bought from the store was rotten..Hell, tell him one azz cheek got more tan than the other and you wanted everything to be perfect for when he got home Down play it, now is not the time..this upcoming month is not the time. Somewhere down the line, that talk will and should come.