It is great that you have your self esteem. I struggle daily with the question of whether I'm staying simply because I don't know as a 44 y/o with a few extra pounds and a sometimes overly analytical and strong personality if I am just afraid I would never find anyone. Intellectually I figure I could, feeling it is a daily struggle.
You think I'm not afraid? I'm petrified. But also confident that "eventually" it will happen. It's the in-between part that scares me senseless. How long would it take? A year? 10 years? more? And how many toads will I kiss before I find someone that has a great sex drive and also falls in love with me. The sex part is easy. The love part is the kicker.
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Take out the mother part (my MIL is great) and you are describing my wife. On the other hand if he doesn't show his feelings how can you be sure he isn't hurt from the S?
Well, I think he is hurt. But if he isn't willing to show it, that is just as bad in my book. It's not honest.
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That part of my post was supposed to be prefixed and ended with (NEW AGE BS MODE ON) and (NEW AGE BS MODE OFF) tags
Lol!
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Maybe we need to put ourselves in a position to fall in love with our spouses several times a year. Hard to do with today's busy schedules and lifestyles, but maybe it is needed in order to defeat the non-long-term monogamy programming built into us humans.
If the two people are motivated to do that than I agree. But if not, I don't think it's going to work.
