Well, our mutual friend called me last night. She said WAW sent her a nasty email about 20 days ago about not supporting WAW decision. She alienated her best friend b/c she told her to try. She reached out to her wanting her to talk to but I guess not anymore. I was very detached throughout conversation. Told her I know WAW is very lonely, scared, etc...Told her I still love wife but I did not know what I would do if she pulled in the driveway right now, which I know she is not going to do. Got to tell her about few things I've learned about myself also. Like how I was miserable at work and thus tried to getaway from it by playing online chess. Ridiculous to lose wife over playing on computer. She said she had left 2 messages on both phones on consecutive days and WAW would not return her calls. That told me quick WAW mindset had not changed much. Anyhow...
Got woke up at 3:34am to voice mail from WAW wanting to talk to 5D. No telling when she sent it. So, I called her at 5:50. I told her I need 5D jacket. She said she had lost it and 5D got a dress code violation because of it on Monday then found it. I then told her I xferred some money because of a bill of mine. She thanked me. Then told her about 5D cough, and even asked what medication she would recommend because she was out of what I was giving her. She suggested a product. Everything was really nice and pleasant and I would have thought positively about things until she brought up papers and when am I going to sign. I said I thought their were things you were thinking that we discussed previously. She said oh, I'll call my lawyer. I said we only talked about 12 things more to be discussed. She then talked to 5D. Afterward, we talked again. This time she says that she will not agree to equal time or joint custody and wants "safety net" of crap visitation with an any other time agreed upon clause, just in case. Really just a dig at my parenting. She then said is their anything else I'd consider. I said so you are basically asking me to give up my 5D. She said no but...and had nothing to say. I did say, probably should not have, that I had no "safety net" when I married you, no prenuptial or anything. But in the end, she did say she would meet again to discuss stuff in papers.
Then I went to 5D school to get CW/HW because I kept her out of school due to her cough. While I was there, I took the time to check to see if wife had done as requested. She said she would pickup 5D on my non-visitation days last week of W,Th,F from school instead of another party. Turns out wife did not pick 5D up from school on any of these days. Pile of horse.
So, today I am really ticked. I guess it's easier to become more fully detached when wife is trying to take your 5D from you, lie to your face about her, etc... Get to see attorney this afternoon...oh boy...She has no grounds and cannot file fault unless she just lies again and expects me to roll over on our child. Meanwhile I have 3 grounds and it won't win me 1 extra day with 5D. Something wrong with that picture. Anyhow, going to talk about this pickup 5D matter and how to win custody again.
Regardless, my plan is to wait. I am not going to practice good DB/DR and plan my actions but not execute them until I am sure. As we all should read ten times. If you think about taking some action...Don't. I think this is one of those times. I really have to decide if I am going to file and try to win custody. Their would be no chance then. That line in the sand would never be washed away.
Sorry about the length but...10-20minutes of conversation with 2 people can lead to a lot I guess...Input, insights, greatly appreciated.
