Still stuck in Limbo Land

[MariS]

Journaling....

WAH-MLCer was in a MLC mood last night. Kept complaining about being bored and nothing to do. He wasn't helpfull w/child, basically ignored, except when child asked for daddy to play. BUT then it was only for the period of time that daddy wanted to play - JERK.

I detached and hovered in the back ground to see how child was doing and stepped in to handle the basics (dinner, bath, etc.)

Created my own speed bump.

WAH-MLCer left a medical bill out for me to pay and I said I wasn't paying, he replied for me to throw it away and I did.

WAH-MLCer changed our health insurance a year ago so our premiums would be less, deductible went up to 3K or 5K, can't remember. The money saved on the premiums was to be set aside to cover the expenses, but WAH-MLCer has been pocketing it or drinking it, etc.

SO - being his dependant, and having had medical "checks" due to his affairs, I have not a problem with the invoices being sent to him. As I see it, that is the "Dad/Husband's" job. Maybe if I have my brain in gear next time, I can remember to mention that. Especially since he keeps telling me that certain things are a Mom's job. (only because his mom didn't work and had to do everything as well - his dad was an alcoholic too)

Must detach!!!!