Long and Bumpy Road 2be continued...

[Startingover2]

I really dont know what to do. I think that H is really settling into this is the way life should be. He sends a text or two through the day asking how baby and I are and have a good day. Nothing more. Doesn't ask to see me, doesn't say he wants to change anything. I feel like he is just going thru the motions and keeping his foot in the door just so he can have access to his daughter when he wants.

But that is not what I truly want. I want a husband and a father for my daughter. I want him to step up. If he can't then he needs to go away and we will work out a visititation schedule for her when she is born.

Depending on who you ask in my life I get different answers....my sister (and most friends) say I ought to tell him to F off and not speak to him until after baby is born in March and let him know the hours he can see her and how much he will need to pay in cs. She feels that he has screwed me over too many times and this is who the guy is and will never change. Another friend says to be civil with him as we are having a child and hope that he changes. That is fine, but I have let him walk in and out of my life for a year and a half now with no commitment and alot of lies and hurt.

So do I go along letting him cake eat and hope for a change or tell him go away until you can make a commitment?