I think, personally, for your son to be asked who he wants to live with is cruel. He is going to feel torn. If you and your W agree it is better for him to be with you and you are in a position for you to do that then that's what should happen. Your W is playing with his head saying these things to him. And all that crap about foster homes etc........makes me mad too. I am so sorry.
NCB - I just wanted to say I actually bit one of my children. My third child used to go around biting my two older children when he was between 16 - 18 months old. He never bit anyone else - just them. I think they used to get him frustrated and he was too young to vocalise how he felt and so he bit them. After 2 months of this he one day bit my second child so hard he drew blood. I had read somewhere that if all else failed then you should try biting back a child that bites so they know what it's like. I had put off doing that as I didn't like the idea of it but when he drew blood I did it. He never bit again. I did feel bad though.
Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
