It kind of stinks, but the right thing to do is rarely the easy thing to do.
There may be times when you W's will think that D is difficult, but "it's the right thing to do". They may be thinking that right now. But just know that time changes everything. We can't control our feelings, so we just have to wait until feelings change, and change they will. Eventually, if YOUR actions allow them, they will realize that the right thing is to save their M, and that is FAR more difficult than D.
Time is on YOUR side right now. You both have been given the opportunity to change. This is huge. One of those major life changing events that only come along once. Whether you are religious or not please realize this is not necessarily a worldly event, but rather a spiritual battle between good and evil. Both forces alive in your hearts and minds. Do all you can to recognize which force is motivating you at any given time.
Fear, jealousy, anxiety, resentment, anger, frustration, selfishness, self pity, depression, low self esteem, etc. all tools from the dark side used through you to destroy peace. Courage, strength, patience, generosity, unconditional love, acceptance, joy, peace, all from the good side. When you feel the crap starting to stir, just take a moment and meditate, pray, and find out who's really manipulating your heart in the moment. Ask for your higher power to enter your heart and chase away any evil thought or feeling that resides there.
Understand that you are not necessarily in control here. That your higher power has a purpose and a plan, and needs YOU to go with the flow. Ride in the backseat and watch the miracles unfold before your eyes. Let go the need to take control, and accept the life that unfolds before you.
God Bless,
COG
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